Books We Recommend

Although we may not agree with all the views expressed in these books and videos, we recommend the following as resources for gay Christians and others interested in homosexuality, Christianity, and related topics.

Some resources listed below are Side A—they argue that God blesses monogamous gay relationships. Others are Side B—they argue that God calls gay Christians to celibacy. And some don't address the A/B divide or take a position at all.

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Through My Eyes (DVD)
The Gay Christian Network

Appropriate for both sides - This 45-minute documentary, produced by The Gay Christian Network, shows the questions and struggles of dozens of young Christians wrestling with their faith and sexuality.

It's the perfect resource for families, churches, and individuals who want to begin a conversation about these issues in a way that is gentle and compassionate, not about debate. A trailer is available on the film's website.

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Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate
Justin Lee

Some "Side A" content - In a book that has won positive reviews from across the theological spectrum, GCN's founder and executive director uses his own story as a backdrop for exploring the challenges of the "gay debate" in the modern church. Along the way, he offers humor, pop culture, and biblical and scientific evidence to suggest that the issue isn't "gays vs. Christians" at all, and that the church (Side A and Side B) must work to better support its LGBT members.

If you're looking for a book to help your parents or friends understand the gay Christian experience, this is a great place to start.

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The Children Are Free: Reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-Sex Relationships
by Rev. Jeff Miner and John Tyler Connoley (2002)

Side A - This book is one of the best yet for Christians struggling to find an understanding of Scripture that supports gay relationships. Short, clear, and amazingly easy to read, this book does much more than offering loopholes or excuses with regards to the Bible. Instead, the authors combine careful research with a tremendous respect for God's Word, using humor, personal stories, and Biblical examples to make their case.

A must-read for those wanting to understand a Side A position!

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Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality
by Wesley Hill (2010)

Side B - When people think of gay Christians, they often think of those who support same-sex relationships. But what about the gay Christians who believe God has called them to celibacy? How do they deal with loneliness, theological questions, and their place in the church?

In this gentle and heartfelt book, "Side B" gay Christian Wesley Hill shares his own struggles with his faith and sexuality, offering insight to those who have never been there and hope for those who feel alone.

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What's So Amazing About Grace?
by Philip Yancey (2002)

Appropriate for both sides - This is perhaps the most important book any Christian today could read, aside from the Bible. Popular Christian author Phillip Yancey reminds us what an amazing thing God's grace really is, and discusses the ways we've fallen short of showing that grace to others.

One chapter of this book deals with homosexuality and the church's failure to reach out to gay people. Philip Yancey does not come out in support of gay relationships, but rather sidesteps that question altogether in favor of reminding the church what it means to be loving.

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A Place at the Table: The Gay Individual in American Society
by Bruce Bawer (1994)

Some "Side A" content - Ever feel like you're not really a part of the "gay community"? Are you tired of seeing gay magazines and gay pride events perpetuating the stereotype that we're all promiscuous club-hoppers? If so, this is the book for you. Gay Christian author Bruce Bawer talks about the gay subculture and how it has virtually ignored many more "mainstream" gay people. Though this book contains some "Side A" content, most of Bawer's conclusions are relevant to both sides.

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Adventures in Missing the Point: How the Culture-Controlled Church Neutered the Gospel
by Brian D. McLaren and Tony Campolo (2003)

Some "Side B" content - This book challenges Christians to rethink the effectiveness of their faith. Are we doing all God has called us to do? The two authors take turns dealing with different topics in each chapter, with Baptist minister Tony Campolo tackling the issue of homosexuality.

Dr. Campolo takes the conservative, "Side B" approach to the question of same-sex relationships, but he also discusses why he believes sexual orientation is not a choice, and the new approach he believes the church must take to truly be loving. We think Christians on both sides will find the book helpful.

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Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America
by Mel White (1995)

Side A - In a touching autobiographical account, this former Christian filmmaker and ghostwriter for fundamentalist Christians Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson describes his many attempts to become straight, followed by the difficult process of coming out to himself, his peers... and his wife.

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Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son
by Leroy Aarons (1995)

Some "Side A" content - The tragic true story of a young gay man who killed himself after years of wrestling with guilt over his homosexuality. The events leading to Bobby's suicide - and the aftermath for his family - are told through his mother's memories and his own diary entries.

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The Good Book: Reading the Bible with Mind and Heart
by Peter Gomes (1996)

Side A - Some people idolize the Bible, and others discount it. Rev. Gomes does neither. This thoughtful book describes the nature of Bible abuse in the church throughout history, and proposes a way to read the Bible without neglecting either its Divine inspiration or its cultural context.

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Mere Christianity
by C.S. Lewis (1952)

Appropriate for both sides - Want a refresher in the basics of the faith? C.S. Lewis' Mere Christianity is still considered by many the ultimate modern Christian classic. Lewis addresses many of the common questions non-Christians and new Christians ask about Christianity, answering each with plain language and common sense.